Let me begin by saying,----
"Friends are for keeps,"
"Lovers can be transient,"
"Love is eternal, and the truth, just like numbers and perhaps science,"
"Marriage is an institution," and
"Cowards ought to be taught a lesson."
Why do we behave the way we do? It it our neurons? Our society? Or some other external influence?
Why do we run away from something that makes us happy? Perhaps even from a relationship like friendship. Perhaps it never was friendship if one runs away from it and the other person.
Perhaps the other person suddenly realized realities of life. Forced the person to face some truths.
Should I feel happy that perhaps I was the cause of making someone come to terms with his reality? Or should I have gone along with a pretend rendezvous just for the sake of it. Under the guise of a friendship.
Should I have "Shared and Cared" over the phone without pointing out that the possible attachments, links, conditions, human foibles, the truth, and nothing but the truth. Or should I continued behaving brainy, perhaps coy once in a while. A smile here and a smile there, a giggle here and a giggle there. The perfect look, the inevitable charm. The first touch, all for? So that it could end, just as quickly as it began.
No thank you very much, better to hide a head in the sand. Behave like an ostrich. What do you think? Surely you must have come across folks like that.
Friendship in my book is the holiest of all, after a mother's love of course.
To run away from it is cowardly. To face up to your truths is beautiful, it builds character. So keep that head above the sand, y'all!
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Laju, it is very possible that the other person was beginning to experience more than just friendly feelings if you know what I mean. The French say it well, they say "friendship is the flame and love is the fire" or something to that effect...in other words...many friendships lead to something much deeper and some people are uncomfortable with that.
Hi Angelique, thanks for your visit and comment. I agree with you, but it is still a shame.
I suppose it is better to have ignited a flame than started a cold front. But then again, it all depends on circumstances and cultures.
Poetry comes next.....watch out.....
Hey Laju, don't try to justify the other persons actions...you may be wrong. The other person may be taking time to process all of this. New feelings, new friendships or maybe a bowl of everything put together all at once. A lotta work for some.
Is it Love? Is it just infatuation? Is it friendship? What about the possibility of making one's mind up..(and taking long to do so)Some partners do struggle with intelligent minds of a woman. A fear that creates a wall between love and happiness. Humans have a tendency to make excuses not to get involved in 'love.' It's much easier. Some men tend to develop any kind of emotion strictly on their terms. The french dont take forever in recognizing their feelings, they act on it. They stoke the flames in that fire and create a furnace. They are not afraid to love, thats why they're always so happy...LOL! Most other men are rather slow in that department, that's why we never know what's on their minds.
Oh I better close my mouth...LOL!
Thanks for your visit and comment, Riah. Time is the essence......Work, work, work? Friendships should be natural and not work....., not justifying.....I think.
My point exactly!!! But they don't know that!!!What comes natural to us...they have to put it in context. Confused bunch me thinks..LOL
Hey Riah, don't be biased about the French. Indians can be as good. They are just constrained by the "the culture" and the society.Indians may take some time. But when they come out into the open they are better than anybody else out there on the planet. Laju this will work out for you.
Not being biased Tech...it's the truth. Give the French their due, they just don't play with words nor emotions. 'Some' Indian dudes...well that boat is really on action replay. Just when you think you've reached destination....you find you right back where you started...
I been there!!!
Let's take it in stride now!!
Thanks TechSribe and Riah for your comments. I am sure we all are good in our own ways. But the French I believe are less hung up about love. In France, there is Paris--the city of love, in India we have the Pink Chaddi Campaign.
TechScribe--the culture, as you've said does provide constraints, but it is the individual who needs to decide what works or doesn't work.
I know this is easier said than done as we all live in different countries and have different circumstances.
Of course, end of the day it is still a personal choice (I know this might come across as a western point of view, one could always bring in destiny here). Also there are always consequences for every choice one makes as one does not live in isolation, not even molecules.
It is said that everything happens for a reason and that things happen for the best, as such I try to find the best in it all...
My choice: To continue writing....
Take care all and thanks for visiting. Keep doing it.
Hey laju. I miss these conversations
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